The Best Conscious Parenting Advice from the Akashic Records

For the past year, my husband and I have been preparing our kids to move schools. Slowly acclimating them to the idea of leaving their friends and switching to a smaller school. 

There are several reasons for this but the main one being that we are in the process of building a new home in a different school district. This new area has a more desirable school as it is significantly smaller and feels safer. 

Plus, I had received very clear guidance on the matter. Above anything else, I trust my intuition.

Over the summer, the plans for building kept getting pushed back for one reason or another and we didn’t get started as soon as we intended. 

I was confident that because I was guided to this decision that it wouldn’t matter and our children would be able to attend this year regardless of our living situation. 

The week before school starts, I finally hear back that they have declined our request. I even pushed a second request of consideration which was also declined.

I was livid, not only with the school (as they had accepted other transfer students) but this time I was pissed at the universe. 

How could you lead me so far in one direction only to slam the door shut on my face? 

Has this ever happened to you? You have followed your intuition to lead you down one path only to have it completely spin you around.

It’s beyond frustrating at the time because you are too close to it all to understand the larger picture, but I was about to get some major parenting guidance from above including the best gift we could ever give our kids.

For more parenting guidance, read my blog on How to Raise Conscious Children.

Back to my story… I had a Plan B in case Plan A didn’t work out, because I do recognize that although I had been manifesting this for a while (and this was the year I needed my guides to come through), I know I don’t control the timeline. 

One of the main reasons we wanted to get our kids into the new school this year was because my son Tatum was transitioning to middle school, which in the current school district means he jumps to a very large middle school. 

Given my husband and I come from small towns and attended a small private college - the sheer size of this school terrified me as a parent. Plus, all summer long I had been hearing nothing but horror stories about kids’ experiences there. Things I did not wish to expose my very innocent 11 year old.

Plan B for Tatum was online school, which I had heard wonderful things about the program and I thought Tatum would do well with that approach for one year until we finished the house.

When we were declined from the desired school, not only my hopes were crushed but Tatum was devastated. After I showed him the online option, he absolutely refused. He felt trapped as if I was forcing him into prison. 

I was so emotionally upset because I didn’t know what to do. I was stuck between a rock and hard place with very little time left to make a decision.

As a parent you want to do all you can to protect your kids. Sending him into a potentially dangerous situation felt so wrong to me, but it felt even worse knowing Tatum would blame me for his unhappiness.

As always in these scenarios I prayed for help. I sat down with a trusted friend in the Akashic Records to seek guidance and support on the situation. The miracles (shifts in perspective) we received were invaluable parenting advice. 

Related Blog: What are the Akashic Records?

6 Positive Parenting Tips from The Akashic Records

#1 Understanding Individuality

Here’s the thing us parents tend to forget… 

That we are raising individuals. 

These souls came here to experience certain things in life and not all of those things are going to be rainbows and butterflies. 

For example, if you wish to experience forgiveness, someone has done something awful to you so you can have the opportunity to forgive them. This example comes from a wonderful children’s parabel called The Little Soul & the Sun.

Some of the things we come to experience here are hard to move through, but it’s even harder for loved ones to watch. 

I was holding the reigns of control so tight and felt so blindsided by my guides, that I couldn’t see the bigger picture.

#2 Practice Surrender & Detachment

After my Akashic Records session, I was finally able to understand. I had to become detached from the outcome of my kids’ lives. 

That’s a hard pill for a parent to swallow. It’s not my job to shape them into who they are supposed to be or control their entire world to keep them safe. (Read that line again.)

If I did that, I would be preventing them from experiencing all that they came here to experience. 

Who am I to take that away from anyone? 

I’m often told.. “That’s not your job.”  And they are right, it’s not my job to control other’s lives, but it is the hardest thing to surrender as a parent.

We must be unattached to the outcome of our loved ones' situations.

Once I understood this, I could finally surrender and let go of the whole situation and I instantly felt a release in my body. 

On his first day of school, I didn’t cry or worry at all. I just made sure that I was there at the end to hear all about it. 

#3 Know your Role

If we can’t always protect them, then what is our job as parents?

We are the grounded support system they need to work through their experiences. 

We are the cushion against the harshness of the world. 

We are the solid rock for them to hold. 

We are the open arms that they can run to for unconditional love and acceptance.

We get to be there for them to listen and observe.

And we need to remember that they didn’t come just to experience the highs but lows and it is in the lows that they learn the most and evolve as a soul. 

We are here to hold them through this evolution. 

#4 Let your Child Lead

One question I asked in the Records was “How do you know as a parent when to interfere?” 

The guidance was to let your child guide you and if you need to interfere, you will be alerted in the most obvious of ways.

When I was trying to interfere with choosing Tatum’s school for him, he made it very clear to me what he wanted. He wanted to go to the big school where all his friends were going. 

So when I finally decided to let go and trust Tatum to guide his own way, he was over the moon that we were letting him have a say in his life. 

#5 Honor Agreements

Parenting is an agreement that we signed up for but we forget that it’s a contract with other souls (our kids). We forget that these children are often old souls who are perfectly capable of handling all that life has to offer. 

We all have soul contracts that help us to fulfill our desired experiences in this life.

Nothing is a coincidence or accident. Everything is perfectly coordinated and orchestrated down to the fine print and we are not privy to all of it, which is why we must trust. 

To help us all feel more supported in the decision to allow Tatum to attend the big school, we made an agreement that he would promise to keep open communication with us about everything happening in school so we could talk through it together.

#6 Focus on You

How can we be better parents?

The number one thing we can do is focus on ourselves and our own healing journey. 

Build your own energy system so you can be a stable support role. Practice presence and non-attachment. 

Incorporate grounding practices and meditations into your daily routine. 

“Your stable energy is the best gift you can give them.”  

Receive my free meditation to help ground your energetic presence.

Now that the dust has settled from this emotional roller coaster, I have gratitude for my own experience in it. I see the lesson I so desperately needed to learn around detachment.

I can appreciate and understand why I was sent down one path only to be turned around, because without the detour, I might not have fully understood. 

We must lean on each other for support when we become too attached. I’m here to help you receive your own clarity and miracles. Visit here to explore ways we can work together.

The parenting guidance I received was too important not to share. For more parenting guidance, check out my other blogs on Conscious Parenting.